I often wondered why oral sex seemed to drive other guys crazy. In porn, guys seemingly shoot across the room from oral sex. Our male culture, and pornography, tells us that blow jobs are one of the best parts of sex.

Not for me. Whenever I was fortunate enough to get a blow job, my penis would go limp after about a minute. I never felt enough stimulation to stay hard, let alone to orgasm or even ejaculate. I never understood the fascination with blow jobs. I attributed all the blow jobs in porn to acting and being just another facet of erotic fantasy.

I resigned myself to never having mind blowing oral sex.

Then I learned what circumcision does to men. I was circumcised when I was a baby and I never thought about it until recently. Being circumcised was normal to me. I never associated the irritation from rubbing against my underwear with my lack of a foreskin. I never knew that my glans was a mucous membrane and was supposed to be glossy and supple, with a pinkish-purple color. I never knew that circumcision removed the most sensitive parts of the penis. I never knew that what was left after circumcision gradually became less sensitive as the exposed tissue toughened up from rubbing against my clothing.