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  • Benefits of foreskin restoration - Part 1 Sensitivity   7:08am Thu, May 17, 2012
    Foreskin Restoration

    Hi, I've just been circumcised a few days ago due to phimosis and I've been researching the difference between cut and uncut in the run-up to my op. I've heard about this foreskin restoration and I'm curious about how it's done because reading circumcised people's experiences has brought me to realise what I could lose. I play guitar and you get pads on your fingers from the pressure of pressing on the strings and the thought of having that happen to my penis is horrifying. Could you give me some info or links on how to go about restoring the foreskin please? Any help would be much appreciated!

    Many thanks,

     

    Liam

  • Intactivism: Week in Review May 5, 2012   8:58am Mon, May 14, 2012
    MY EXPERIENCE

    FROM AN ANONYMOUS MALE
    When my father was in school for veterinary medicine, he became aware that almost all mammals have and need their foreskins.  I was born while he was getting his doctorate.  Despite their awareness, my parents had me circumcised.  They knew better, but did not attempt to protect me. 

    It was a disaster.  Almost all of the skin was removed and I have lived my life with scrotal skin pulled up and covering much of my penis.  It was uneven: one side of my penis was severely pulled to the side.  There are several ugly skin tags on the under side, and a painful adhesion between the remaining penile skin and the head on the topside.  This mutilation has resulted in pain and embarrassment throughout my life.  The circumcision scar is large and uneven.  My most private, male part is quite insensitive. 

    When I first read about restoring foreskin, my wife and I had a long conversation and I told her that I would not attempt it unless she was completely, fully supportive.  However, when I started, this became a major issue in our marriage and was one of the major causes -- if not the foremost reason -- for its failure and our divorce.  Circumcision has had a profound, negative impact on my life.  It is time to stop this nonsense.  We now know that there are no benefits for routine infant circumcision, for boys or for adults -- except to finance hospitals and physicians.  Boys die every year from this money-making quackery.  The actual medical need for male circumcision is incredibly, extraordinarily rare. 

    My experience is very common.  I am humiliated: I am sorry I cannot provide my name.

  • Memories of my infant circumcision   11:49pm Thu, May 3, 2012
    The brutality of circumcision

    The brutality of circumcision is a horrific revelation.  I married an "intact" man from Europe and the first time we really discussed it was prior to the birth of our first child.  Being raised in the US and fearing heckling in the locker room, I just assumed we would do it, but he was having absolutely nothing to do with it.  It was only after discussing it as some kind of bizarre cultural norm here that I (of course) became outraged and agreed not to have it done.

    Our son is now seven years old and a few weeks ago, we were telling him stories about his birth and I mentioned that on the day after he was born, the doctor came in our room, closed the door, sighed a big sigh and told us how glad she was to see the "no circ" sign on his bassinet.  Suddenly I realized that he had no idea what circumcision was.  When I asked him if he ever saw another kiddo's pee-pee in the bathroom or when changing, he confirmed that he had, but just assumed that God made them differently.  When I explained that God made everyone like him, but some Mommies and Daddies decided to remove part of their pee-pees.  Since it was not something that needed to be done, we left the decision for him to make later on.  If a baby is too small to make a decision and they could be hurt by not doing something like that, then the Mom and Dad should absolutely go ahead with it, but otherwise, the decision isn't theirs to make.  It was literally an hours long conversation with a multitude of absolutely fascinating questions.

    That was maybe 3-4 weeks ago and he STILL frequently comes to give me a hug and says "Mommy, thank you so much for saving my pee-pee!" 

  • No one wants a turkey neck for Thanksgiving   11:41am Wed, May 2, 2012
    Ingenious

    Very ingenious way to keep your scrotal skin from being tensioned when tugging.

  • No one wants a turkey neck for Thanksgiving   11:25am Sun, Apr 29, 2012
    Turkey Neck

    I have been restoring for 3 years now.  Over the past year, I have begun using tugging weights, which have a tendency to pull not only shaft skin but some skin from my scrotum too.   I have tried various ways to eliminate "webbing" and finally found an inexpensive way to keep the shaft skin isolated while tugging.    Go down to your local department store and buy a sports wrist band.  They are elastic and are generally covered with soft material.   Cut a hole through the center of the band (enough for your shaft).   Place it through the hole and then wrap the band around your scrotum.   The band will separate the "webbing" skin and will also stretch your scrotum downward.    If the band slips a bit, which mine did, I took a pair of suspenders, separated them, and then used one side, stretching it around my waist and connecting the ends to the top of the wristband.   This way, it keeps the wristband in place..... allowing your scrotum to stretch down and the weighted tugger to pull the isolated shaft skin.

  • I LOVE foreskin   6:19pm Sat, Apr 21, 2012
    To "uncut is a curse"......I

    To "uncut is a curse"......I feel so sorry for you that you are that unhappy with your normal natural body.  Especially since your unhappiness comes from not "looking" like others in the high school shower and female gossip.  What a shame!  Honestly, many women do not understand or appreciate the natural anatomy of a male, especially in high school.  That is what happens when people are immature and uneducated on these things.  But you are wrong, you can still choose to get circumcised and so what if it's painful?  Pain should not be an obstacle, unless it's not really that important.  My hope for you is that at some point, you discover how lucky you are to have had parents who didn't alter your body as an infant and that you have a body that is whole and normal.  I hope that you one day find a woman who is not shallow and ignorant, and the two of you can enjoy your bodies as nature intended.  One day, you will be appreciating the fact that you are able to enjoy your whole genitals and it won't matter who you look like or don't look like.

  • Back Pain: How I made the pain stop   11:32am Mon, Apr 16, 2012
    This is Why Your Back Hurts

    Interesting article. You may want to visit my website on the link I posted with the comment. I wrote a book about back pain care entitled "This is Why Your Back Hurts", eliminate your back pain without Drugs, Doctors or Surgery in just 6 Weeks! You may want to check it out. This would probably helps. Thank you

  • I LOVE foreskin   12:53am Wed, Apr 11, 2012
    re: Uncut is a curse

    Your parents failed you all right, but not in the way you think.  They were right to protect your body, but they failed to teach you that conformity is not the seat of self-satisfaction.  Somehow being different is this huge problem for you.  WHY? You aren't different from most of the men in the world. It's sad to think that if most people in your social circle were missing their left testicle you would lament having yours.  There's nothing shameful about the normal body, so don't be ashamed. That's letting other people's messed up ideas mess you up. Self-love will always evade you if you live your life like that. \ /,,

  • I LOVE foreskin   8:42pm Mon, Apr 9, 2012
    Uncut is a curse

    Sorry but I hate being uncut. I'm 32 and everyone I know knows I'm uncut because I showered after football practice in high school or I slept with women who told other women. It sucks being different and ashamed! My parents always said they didn't want me to hurt and my response was always I wouldn't remember it anyways....so now I am forced to be different the rest of my life. I guess I could find a doctor but its too late and I would remember the pain. Oh well!

  • Overcoming a botched circumcision (skin bridge)   10:09pm Thu, Mar 29, 2012
    Please find a lawyer and sue

    Please find a lawyer and sue the doctor who circumcised you. He screwed up and deserves to pay.

  • Intactivism: Week in Review March 24, 2012   2:28pm Mon, Mar 26, 2012
    Dodgy Circumcision Klamp in Africa

    The report shows 37% complications following the use of this clamp, and the study even show that it was unethical!  How in the world can WHO keep on promoting male circumcision in Africa?  How many more thousands of African men will be permanently mutilated on the basis of flawed reports?  Where is the moral integrity of those who promote circumcision as a preventive measure for HIV infection?

  • Overcoming a botched circumcision (skin bridge)   11:43pm Wed, Mar 21, 2012
    same

    I have a skin bridge on the left side of my head and shaft. Luckily, its about 1/2 a centimeter. I've always had questions about it, seeing other guys' being normal. Fortunately, I don't honestly care. It happens and its not easy to deal with, but personally, it beats getting surgery. I, like most teenagers, have had a few encounters. Girls don't seem to notice, or they don't seem to care. Everyone has some weird flaws, nothing big:)

  • I LOVE foreskin   11:46am Mon, Mar 19, 2012
    I loved the calm and

    I loved the calm and smoothmanner in which glided past the article !  

  • The Fox Without a Tail   12:58am Fri, Mar 9, 2012
    I think you're right on the

    I think you're right on the money with this post.  You might also find this interesting:
    http://www.moralogous.com/2012/03/01/a-brief-history-of-the-foreskin-and-circumcision/
     

    Lillian Dell’Aquila Cannon uses the fable about the fox and the grapes here, but she is reaching a similar conclusion.
    Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this.

  • GFS (Gentle Foreskin Stretcher) for treating phimosis   2:34am Fri, Mar 2, 2012
    Launch of new Web Site for NOVOGLAN Gentle Foreskin Stretcher

    Hi Everyone,

     

    we launched our new web site last week - come join us at http://store.platigosolutions.com and comment.

     

    We also have two specials running in March. The Foreskin Stretcher to cure a tight foreskin and foreskin cleansing soap and foreskin stretching cream are all on special.

     

    we hope to see you soon.

     

    Novoglan

  • A father's talk with his son about infant circumcision   12:54pm Wed, Feb 29, 2012
    Thank you

    Thank you so much for sharing this touching story.  I will save this to show to any sons I may have in the future (who will be left intact).  How lovely to see a thoughtful understanding father raising a thoughtful understanding son.  An excellent job!

  • Intactivism: Week in Review February 18, 2012   8:36pm Sun, Feb 19, 2012
    Methodological, ethical, and legal concerns.

    http://in2eastafrica.net/wp-content/uploads/2012/02/2011_12_Boyle-Hill-J...

    This is one of the best, critically and unbiased refutation of the belief that male circumcision is going to stop the HIV epidemic.  It also has all (130) references for the conclusion, and other references on the validity of the much touted benefits of male circumcision as a preventive tool.

     

  • Overcoming a botched circumcision (skin bridge)   6:33am Mon, Feb 13, 2012
    Thanks for sharing!

    I just found this site, and it is a real eye-opener! I'm a paediatrician, so I have always recommended against circumcision on medical grounds - but it makes a real difference to hear the personal horror stories of men who have suffered through various associated difficulties and complications. Kudos to you for telling this story in public - it deserves to be known!

  • I LOVE foreskin   6:02pm Fri, Feb 10, 2012
    restoration is also knowledge

    I have felt grief over my circumcision for much of my life, since I reached puberty and understood what I lost when I was not even hours old.  I would give anything to be whole.

    I wanted to thank you for your intense and thoughtful words.  They had a complex effect on me.  As you warned, they did hurt tremendously.  Listening to you read this essay is something I'll never forget.  It did not change my mind, as there is no where it can change to, but enhanced my sadness.  I am comforted by the fact that you will have a similar effect on others, and as a result more children can be spared this horrific, barbaric practice.

    Physical restoration is not the only kind of way that a man can regain sensations and experience which are lost to circumcision.  When I learned about the differences in the way that intact and circumcised men make love, I changed the way that I stimulated myself and the way that I moved during sex.  The change took time, but eventually I re-trained myself to behave a more natural way, which has helped my partners tremendously, and has yielded sex which is indescribably better, closer, and more intense than before I understood the difference behavior between natural and circumcised.

    Now I am doing what I can to convince my skin to grow.  I hope that one day, in a future when circumcision is an anachronism and all boys are left whole, I'll be able to tell the story of how I used my own hands and mind to rebuild a part of myself that my society took.

  • Overcoming a botched circumcision (skin bridge)   10:51pm Thu, Feb 9, 2012
    Same problem.  

    Same problem.  

  • Intactivism: Week in Review February 4, 2012   6:14pm Thu, Feb 9, 2012
    Medical Research Studies on Circumcision.

    An excellent list of studies showing the absurdity of routine infant circumcision.  Although the number of articles may be overwhelming, it supplies a lot of ammunition for discussion and support of our position.  Thank you for the link.

  • Protest against infant circumcision in Washington, DC   8:07pm Fri, Feb 3, 2012
    Child Abuse...NOT

    "Its blasphemous...to destroy Gods perfect Image. We were made in His Divine Image, and you are no one to question Him."

    In your ignorance, you say for no one to question God, however, God says we are to question! Even if that were not the case, you still fail-because who the hell are you to be so arrogant and presumptious as to know what God's thinking is? We were created in His image. Did you fail to read the book of Exodus where circumcision is a sign of the covenant between God and man? Next time you want to spout religion, do your homework.

    Having said that, let me say this: Jesus Christ's death did away with the old covenant with man, and through His death was made the new covenant with man. Jesus paid the price with His blood. Those who wish to circumcise their sons in the name of religion are free to do so-but it is not required today. It is the duty of every parent to make decisions, sometimes hard ones, for the child who clearly cannot even have an opinion. In protecting their child, in their eyes and most of the eyes of the world, by having the child circumcised, the parent is doing right. Especially if the child's doctor says it is for health reasons that there is a need for circumcision.

    Child abuse this is not. I would be willing to bet that the people who treat child abuse victims are outraged at this comment. When done in infancy, such as my son having it done the second day of his life, it poses no pain for the child. My son literally slept through it. Studies have been done to show this. I was a victim of child abuse and the scars I have are way worse than any scar from circumcision. In my opinion, and yes this is opinion, anyone who has a problem with a decision their parent made when they were too young to know the difference has way too much interest in their penis. Maybe this interest is a form of scar from the person who was sexually abused as a child. In my reality, no one sits around discussing their penises. Even my gay friends do not sit discussing it.

    I'll leave you with just one parting shot-you sound like a teenager who cannot control himself. By your words I see an impetuous child... certainly no MAN in maturity level. Stop your whining and snivelling. There is a reason there are barely any people in your group.

  • Intactivism: Week in Review January 14, 2012   10:40am Sun, Jan 15, 2012
    I'm honored to be included in

    I'm honored to be included in this list!  I've been debating the issue (I'm sad that there's anything to debate) with a friend of mine who is a pediatrician...hoping she'll come around.

  • Protest against infant circumcision in Washington, DC   7:48pm Fri, Jan 13, 2012
    2500yr.ancient ritual a sorry mans excuse to ruin people

    Give liberty to women by giving liberty Too men.  They cut off way too much Foreskin and people are shy to talk about it.  The Real Cure is the Condom. Or a little soapy water fixes all these problems.
             What they don’t tell you about circumcision: There is a service called, “IntactCare.org” Education about intact care is so important and would save so much pain.  Foreskin removal is an almost guarantee that the males won’t give females diseases and will give males erectile dysfunction.  Over 100 babies per year die of foreskin removal.  Why is Orgasm wrong?  Are you just a yes person for the Catholic Church; that allows you to live profitably like a good little sheep?  Foreskin mutilation people are two embarrassed or uneducated to talk about something that is important in satisfying there partner. On the web site it says. ‘That without foreskin women loose 80% of the experience.” So a doctor will come in and say he will do a little procedure and the Mom will say it’s okay and a few minutes later it will be done, like a thief in the night. That they leave a 3” wide scare that won’t allow you to masturbate properly, also won’t quit during times that you don’t want it, during your puberty years.  Dr. Dean Odell said, ‘It’s wrong.’  Proper discussion wouldn’t hurt anyone and maybe better resolutions would be done.  I guess the old establishment is always right. Or gives a lot to the 1st. born or takes away the 1st. born, so it is written or so it is said?  I’ve always thought they removed too much skin and people would always laugh, when you question what this is about.  Now that I see sometimes; how unkind and stupid people are, I guess they didn’t hear the word rude in the bible, I suppose this is a spiritual gift many people get except it really is bondage.  The invention of the condom protection did two things 1.) Keeps people from having babies 2.)Circumcision is an ancient rite but, it’s wrong>A ritual worth stopping.  It decreases the spread of disease.  Foreskin is a very useful and valuable part of the body part that most Adult men do not want to give up. Why don’t you look up the demographics? Please stop this unethical unnecessary procedure.  WWW.intactAmerica.org  or look up youtube=circumcision-Assault on Male 3-parts, also www.crispe.org.

  • Circumcision and the Penile Frenulum   3:41pm Tue, Dec 27, 2011
    Ouch!

    If your frenulum tears, the first thing to do is keep it clean and let it heal. Rinse the wound with clean water and avoid playing with it. Then you must ask yourself how you tore your frenulum.

    If you are intact and your frenulum is short, you may have frenulum breve. There are simple ways to correct frenulum breve that do not involve circumcision. 

    If your frenulum is not too short, did you tear it from having rough sex? The end of the penis is mucous membrane, which is much thinner than the skin on the shaft. An example of rough sex is dry masturbation for a circumcised man. Dry masturbation can unduly stress that thin tissue and cause abrasions or even tears. If rough sex is the cause, you must decide if it is worth it.

    If you are restoring your foreskin and your frenulum remnant tore, then you need to change how you are tugging. If you are using a device, you may need a frenulum notch. For example, the DTR and TLC-X pusher plates can be notched to provide clearance for your frenulum remnant. Contact your restoring device vendor for more information.

    If you continue to tear your frenulum, I suggest seeing a doctor (probably a urologist would be best).

    Hope this helps.

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  • Foreskin Restoration
    Hi, I've just been circumcised a few days ago due to phimosis and I've been researching the difference between...
    Liam (not verified) - 7:08am Thu, May 17, 2012
  • MY EXPERIENCE
    FROM AN ANONYMOUS MALE When my father was in school for veterinary medicine, he became aware that almost all mammals...
    Anonymous (not verified) - 8:58am Mon, May 14, 2012
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    The brutality of circumcision is a horrific revelation.  I married an "intact" man from Europe and the...
    Anonymous (not verified) - 11:49pm Thu, May 3, 2012
  • Ingenious
    Very ingenious way to keep your scrotal skin from being tensioned when tugging.
    Tally - 11:41am Wed, May 2, 2012
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    I have been restoring for 3 years now.  Over the past year, I have begun using tugging weights, which have a...
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